My mother was murdered on 15 October 2005. Zola Mdyogolo stands trial for her murder from 27 March 2006. This blog tells you what happens.

Saturday, April 1

DAY +4 Coming home


The past nearly six months have been an incredibly difficult time - I hope I’ve had my share for a good while to come! That said, it doesn’t just stop now either, but when I think about other similar situations that I have read or heard about, there is also a lot to be thankful for.

The arrest of Zola Mdyogolo happened on the day he murdered my mother - it can take months or even years for an arrest, sometimes it never happens. The case came to trial within six months - often it can take 18 months or more. The trial resulted in a guilty verdict without any protracted legal proceedings or the need for family and friends to give difficult evidence. They may seem small things, but I’m grateful for them all.

I am heading back into my everyday routine in the next few days, but the breathing space I have had this week has been good for me, as has this blog. When I started it a couple of weeks ago I wasn’t really sure whether I would get what I wanted from it, but it has been great. Certainly the amount of support I have received from people all over the world has been astonishing and all I can say is that I appreciate it very much - thank you.

Something that I have done each day during the past week is visit the spot on the beach from where the photo on today’s posting was taken. It is where we scattered my mother’s ashes early one morning last October, a favourite spot of rock pools and chasing sticks for the dogs. Where you’re almost sure to find nice big sea-urchin shells and sometimes a cowrie shell. Where the African Oystercatchers, Pied Kingfishers and Whimbrel probe and dive for food and the water is always just a bit warmer than on the main beach. I’m off there now one last time before I leave.

3 Comments:

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear Sion. Am sure you are glad the trial is over and that it was not as painful as it could have been. Hopefully it has helped you with 'closure' or whatever it is called, although I am not sure one ever quite 'moves on' from something like that. Marmaduke and Sebastian have been taking it in turns to sit on my lap while I have been reading your blog, and send purrs. With love from Nicola.

3:43 PM

 
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am glad the trial is almost over. It is also great that this blog helped you. Thanks for sharing this. Hopefully, the life will bring much better things for you and your family.

5:46 PM

 
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear Sion

It has been some years now since I've seen you, but through a mutual friend I heard of your terrible loss, and was pointed in the direction of your blog.

I don't think I can even begin to find any suitable words of comfort. To lose a close member of your family at any time can be truly awful - I lost my Mum to cancer when I was 15 and my Dad to heart disease at 23, and I truly struggled with those losses. But to lose someone you love in such dreadful circumstances as yours is a terrible cross to bear, not least because of the anger you must surely feel.
You clearly had a very close and loving relationship with your Mum and I hope that as time passes, it's those happy times you remember and can focus on when you think of her.
My very best wishes to your and your family, and please rest assured that all your friends, both old and new, are thinking of you.

2:57 PM

 

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